家長們，你們每天早上會跟子女較勁和嘮叨嗎？最近，我讀了一本書名叫《10 Things Every Parent Needs To Know》，作者賈斯汀·庫爾森寫道：「每天早上督促六個孩子吃早餐、做便當、準時出門上學，是很繁重的工作。幸運的是，這不是我太太或是我的工作。這是孩子們自己的工作，而我們只是從旁指導。」書中提到庫爾森和太太有六個女兒，他們嘗試過不同方法來管理每天的早晨：吼叫、集貼紙換禮物……但全部都不管用，最後他們終於找到一套真正有用的方式──跟孩子一起做了「早晨事項清單」和創造了一份早餐菜單及午餐菜單，由孩子點餐，但爸爸媽媽不是廚師，孩子們要自己服務自己：自己點餐，自己做早餐，以此教導孩子基本的生活技能，用了這個方法後，他們的親子關係有了很大的改善，孩子們每天都帶着笑臉上學，你們知道箇中的奧妙嗎？
Do you nag at your child every morning? Recently, I have read a book called 10 Things Every Parent Needs To Know in which the author, Justin Coulson, writes, “Getting breakfast ready and packing lunches for our six kids in time to get them all out the door to school in the morning sounds like a lot of hard work. Luckily, my wife, Kylie, and I don’t do it. The children do most of it while we guide and help where required.” The book mentions that Coulson and his wife have six daughters and they have tried different ways to make mornings more manageable, such as yelling and reward charts. However, none of the methods work. Finally, they found a truly useful way – to make a morning checklist for each child and to let children create their own breakfast menu and lunch menu the night before. Dad and Mum are not the cooks. The children need to serve themselves, from creating the menu to making breakfast. The aim of such method is to teach children life skills and Coulson found that the parent-child relationship had been greatly improved after using this method. The children would go to school with a smiling face every day. Do you know what the secrets are?
According to University of Rochester psychology professors Edward Deci and Richard Ryan, kids need autonomy to be motivated and happy. It means that children need to have a feeling that they can make their decisions. In late May, our school participated in the Homework-free Holiday Self-directed Learning Scheme seminar and shared the effectiveness of the scheme. Autonomy, competence, and relatedness in the Self-Determination Theory are the keys to facilitate children’s positive growth. While our school makes room for students, they cultivate different learning and living habits, plan their own time and activities and experience the joy of self-directed learning. Doesn’t this confirm the effectiveness of “free choices”? Also, the scheme reflects the importance of home-school cooperation – when the school makes room for students to set and achieve their goals at home, parents can witness their growth and learning effectiveness. These desired results require mutual trust and cooperation between school and home.
As the examinations are going to take place from 6th June to 11th June, I believe many parents are busy helping their children with revision. Will you be anxious and say something that makes your child stressed? Parents should be caring and encourage children with praise to help them build their confidence and enhance their abilities. Just like what the Bible says, “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord” (Ephesians 6: 4). I believe that as long as we guide children with love, they can understand the good intentions of parents and teachers, and cultivate positive learning attitudes. Besides, have you heard of the Twenty-one Day Habit Formation Theory? According to some psychologists, it takes twenty-one days for people to form a new habit. Why don’t we encourage our children to use the theory to develop good learning and living habits?
The 23rd Teacher Commendation Scheme has concluded. Mr Chung Chi Sum, Samuel and Mr Lo Kam Fai, Amos have received the highest number of votes and I would like to congratulate them for being voted as Outstanding Teachers. In addition, the results of the Outstanding Students Awards are as follows: Yeung Pak Hei from 1 Love, Chan Ho from 2 Faith, Yiu Man Cheuk from 3 Wisdom, Wong Tsz Tung from 4 Love, Chan Ho Fung from 5 Hope and Kwok Ka Yuet from 6 Faith. We congratulate the elected students and would also like to thank the fellow students for their active participation. I believe that the students have had good experiences during the election and I hope that they can continue to work hard and make further progress. The Parents-Also-Appreciate-Teachers activity and cooking competition will be held on 22nd June (Friday). The event allows teachers, parents and students to have a great time together.
Father’s Day is coming soon. How can we thank our fathers? Let’s make a card for them or you can give them a hug or have some activities together so that you can create some happy memories. I believe that no matter which way you choose, your father will feel your love and smile from the heart. When you thank your father, don’t forget to be grateful to our heavenly Father. As the Bible says, “The Lord is like a father to his children, tender and compassionate to those who fear him” (Psalm 103:13). We should follow Christ wholeheartedly whenever we are parents or daughters and sons.
Chiu Kit Wa